After 20 years of experience helping men find a drug free solution to their erectile dysfunction and premature ejaculation, Shari James has developed a new approach to men’s sexual health and performance: The Architecture of Pleasure. This foundational approach allows her to freely intuit and collaborate with clients to customize, create and build a template for their pleasure and performance.
Borrowing from Shari’s expertise as a registered nurse and practitioner of the five elements of Chinese Medicine, The Architecture of Pleasure blends the best of traditional Western medicine and Eastern healing practices. With her fluid knowledge of the Science of Tantra, she provides a grounded, accessible and multilayered approach.
As a client, this program is designed to work in concert with the care of your primary doctor or therapist, creating a team approach for your overall health. In these sessions, your entire state of being will be addressed: physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually.
Shari is also a skilled group facilitator, public speaker and the author of upcoming book “Him” A Modern Man’s Guide to Sex, Health and Women. She enjoys infusing her wit and comedy background into her work when it’s appropriate, and looks forward to bringing a smile to your face with her humor as you progress.
“Do not go where the path may lead, go instead where there is no path and leave a trail.” Ralph Waldo Emerson
My path as a sexual healer, teacher & coach can be traced back to 1992, when,with butterflies in my stomach,and En Vogue’s “Free Your Mind” playing loudly in the background, I set foot on stage in a Canadian strip club ready to bare all.
Little did I know, that first step would serve as my 1st initiation onto the path of fire, also known as the Tantric Path.
Simultaneously, I was in college studying to become a Registered Nurse. I graduated, received my RN license and went on to specialize in diabetic and post open-heart care in a hospital setting.
I eventually went back to stripping as it afforded me more freedom and my body loved the expression of erotic dance.
With stripping, there is a lot of competition.You have to figure out what your strong suit is. In my case … I’m a good listener. Men opened up to me and I essentially became a “naked therapist”.
Men talked…I listened, offering reflection and sprinkling in a few dances here and there. As a stripper, I learned about arousal on a very base level and was granted access into the inner world of men’s desire.This is where my deep understanding of men and my innate ability to offer them a safe space to heal began.
My2nd initiationoccurred after I moved to Los Angeles, where I was introduced to an underground sorority of women who trained me in the ancient tradition of the erotic arts. The erotic art of massage created a more intimate setting; allowing me to go deeper into relating with men. My compassion grew as my clients shared their stories, their hopes and their frustrations.
My clientele came from around the world and ranged in ages from their 20’s up into their 70’s. Over time I was able to observe and create distinctions around the perspectives and needs of each generation.
This observation gave me deep insight into the male psyche and informs my current work. I am able to not only intuit, but compassionately understand each of my client’s thoughts, desires and feelings; serving as a guide to advance them into the next step of their evolution.
During my time in the erotic arts, natural abilities as a hands-on-healer emerged as I mastered the activation of sexual energy; learning to use it as a natural force for healing the mind and body.
I did not feel guilt, shame or embarrassment with what I was doing, but I was aware that my choices caused pain formy family, friends and love interests. In addition to that, I had to deal with a lot of judgement on a societal level.
This caused me to explore the question;, “Why does giving pleasure cause so much pain?” My curiosity and quest for understanding this conundrum encouraged me to take a deep dive into the shadow side of sexuality … from the dark underground S & M clubs in New York City into the light of spirituality and celibacy. I left no stone unturned.
What my journey had taught me is that sexual energy is an INTENSE and MYSTERIOUS force. To work with this force not only for myself but for the benefit of others, I had to master it.
There are times when it simply became too intense, so I left the path and did other things. I wrote several comedy scripts, acquired professional representation, and did the rounds in Hollywood. I did stand up comedy and improv. I taught hula hoop classes and studied contract law.
But I could not escape my calling.
The 3rd initiation came in the form of a spiritual awakening also know as KUNDALINI AWAKENING.
This occurred while I was visiting and doing breath-work with a male healer. The awakening felt like a GIGANTIC heart-bursting spiritual orgasm that left me in a blissful, otherworldly state of consciousness through which I floated for days on end.
In order to understand what happened next, imagine your body and mind as a hard-drive that can be upgraded with new software. During my awakening, I received the transmissions of Tantra Teacher and Healer. After this I became highly intuitive as a clairaudient (hearing), clairvoyant (seeing) claircognizant (knowing) and clairsentient (feeling). I learned to apply these gifts to my specialty of sexual healing.
Men, women and couples started showing up in my life to heal their sexual issues, and I intuitively knew how to guide them and to heal them.
I was able to combine my education in western medicine with my experience of kundalini-sexual energy and studies of the 5-Elements of Chinese Medicine.
To ground my teachings, I created a template of an Eastern, Western, and energetic approach. This approach allows me to diagnose holographically, and treat holistically.
Over time my compassion for men deepened as I learned of their issues and frustrations around sexual performance. Seeing that they had nowhere to turn toother than a pill or porn, I decided to focus on men exclusively, and create healing in a gap that needed to be filled. I knew that I had what it took to fill that gap.
That is how The Architecture of Pleasure was born.
The Architecture of Pleasure is my current body of work, and is not something I learned in a classroom, or in an online course. It is the evolution of experience and sexploration; of being in the trenches myself…jumping into the fire and having gone through the purification process to emerge back into the light to bring my experience to You.
Does this sound like you?
– I’m waking up with a hand-on less than 3 days a week or not at all.
– I believe that losing my erection as I age is normal.
– I’ve tried male enhancement pills but did not like the side effects.
– I’ve tried male enhancement pills and they stopped working or did not work.
– I don’t want to take male enhancement pills, I’d rather address the underlying problem holistically
– I’ve tried alternatives to treat ED and had temporary results but did not cure it.
– I can get hard but loose my erection during intercourse.
– I can barely get hard with my significant other but I can with other women.
– My significant other is doing research about ED and mentioning it to me.
– My significant other has withdrawn, feels unattractive and insecure when I can’t perform.
– My significant other has cheated or belittled me because I can’t perform.
– My relationship is in jeopardy because of ED.
– I’m single and I stopped dating because of ED issues.
– I watch a lot of porn and I’m having ED symptoms.
– I have ED related performance anxiety.
– I want to master the art of ejaculatory control and have mind blowing orgasms.
– I gave up on sex.
– I don’t feel “alive.”
– I don’t feel like a man anymore.
If you answered yes to 1 or more of these questions keep reading.
The ED BluePrint (TM)
A Drug-Free Solution to end the Struggle with Erectile Dysfunction
“The penis is the overall barometer of a man’s health.” Dr Oz
Discover which habits, lifestyle choices and medications are causing your ED.
If you have a health challenge you will understand the role it plays in Erectile Dysfunction and receive expert advice on how to heal it, overcome it or navigate it.
Learn which major health problem ED is warning sign of.
Explore emotional or mental barriers that are keeping you stuck and frustrated.
Receive a review of any recent blood work to further pin point the cause of ED.
Get crystal clear on the REAL causes of your ED.
Receive customized holistic healing & coaching plus practical actionable steps to end your ED struggle.
Experience dropping into your body (getting out of your head) and approach sexuality from an embodied state to achieve a powerful connected sexual performance.
Experience being present to overcome performance anxiety, create a state of being that improves performance and creates a stronger sexual attraction from he opposite sex.
Wake up with “morning wood” as a sign of great health and take on the day with loads of energy.
Learn the optimal way to exercise and breathe to create a healthy heart and hard on.
See the cause and effect nature of how you take care of your body and the impact YOU have on your ability to get and stay hard.
Learn how to work WITH the wisdom of your body and not against.
Fine tune your purpose as a man by aligning mind, heart and sexuality to strengthen your direction and become highly desirable by the opposite sex.
Eliminate any negative self defeating beliefs with regards to the opposite sex and sexual performance.
Increase your self worth and relevance to the opposite sex and in any aspect of your life.
Learn how to positively polarize the opposite sex to create a sustainable sexual spark.
Re-pattern your brain to see, feel and experience yourself as hard.
End sexual performance anxiety.
Open a path to peak pleasure by releasing guilt, shame, & pain.
Heal emotional heartbreak, anger or resentment toward opposite sex.
Get blood flowing from your heart to penis and back again with my proprietary technique that mimics the effect of male enhancement pills with zero side effects and only positive effects!
Bring more blood flow to your heart and have a positive impact on the firmness of your penis by optimizing your moment to moment breathing pattern.
Explore approaching sexuality from relaxed arousal vs using sex as stress relief.
Turn your heart on to get your hard-on!
Gain sexual energy by functioning from an operating system that is appropriate for your age.
Learn the optimal amount of times to ejaculate and how to manage your sexual energy for peak virility.
Experience how sexual energy flows through the channels and organs of your body and open a pathway for intense mind blowing orgasms.
Experience the heart as the ultimate organ of arousal vs your brain.
Feel ALIVE and ENERGIZED again.
Control how you respond to stress which is the #1 cause of ED.
Discover the role your nervous system plays in your ability to get and stay hard.
Re-train and manage your nervous system to be in an optimal state to get blood flowing to your manhood.
Learn how the way you breathe directly affects your sexual health and performance.
Deepen your ability to be present and reduce emotional reactivity … especially anger.
Others will notice the calm, pleasant, patient new you and wonder what you did.
Position yourself to experience why the most powerful person in the room is the most relaxed.
Increase your “feel good” neurotransmitters with simple breathing techniques.
Reduce or eliminate anxiety and experience inner peace.
Learn how and why watching porn CREATES erectile dysfunction.
Correct “porn damage” by engaging the 5 senses into the sexual act bringing texture and depth into your sex life
Re-sensitize de-sensitization from porn.
See how watching porn negatively impacts your brain and how this affects every areas of your life.
Get support and daily accountability as you break the porn habit.
Master ejaculatory control.
Overcome premature ejacualtion and learn an evolved approach to Control Ejaculation.
Find out what your orgasmic potential is and quadruple your pleasure.
Gain confidence and experience my proprietary “control technique” that is easy and practical.
This technique & teaching serves as the foundation for achieving multiple internal orgasms.
Strengthen the muscles that improves the quality of your orgasm.
Learn how the way you breathe directly affects your sexual performance and staying power.
Understand the role your nervous system plays in your ability to last longer.
To bottom line this… Viagra or Cialis should be your absolute last resort.
The Architecture of Pleasure Be Firm Program is the blueprint to put the power back in your hands… to create optimal health and your ability to get an stay hard.
This 13 week coaching program is designed to fit into a busy lifestyle and give you maximum impact.
Upon completion of this program you are Upgraded to the 2.0 version of yourself emotionally,
mentally, physically and sexually and your struggle with ED is over.
Due to the sensitive and discreet nature of this work, video testimonials are available upon request. I currently have video testimonials for curing Erectile Dysfunction with clients who have Porn Addiction, Parkinsons, Diabetes & Cerebral Palsy.
Western medicine is often missing a holistic, educational and spiritual aspect to its caregiving. I hope to offer that for your clients in order to build a bridge to eastern medical practices while you offer traditional care.
I am seeking members of the medical community who I can partner with in order to create a global referral network of progressive medical professionals in the areas of Longevity Medicine, Urology, Primary Health, Cardiac Care, Psychotherapy and Psychology.
Often, my clients need a traditional referral for:
• Testing • Procedures • Prescriptions • Acute medical conditions • Your overall authority • Problems beyond my capability
Your clients could be referred to me for:
• A drug free alternative for PE and ED • Preventative health counseling. • Education and techniques to naturally reduce prostate inflammation. • Impact for rare cases such as elevated prolactin levels in men. • Post-prostrate surgery care.
“I support Shari James approach to the complete well being of the patient encompassing mind, body and spirit. As human beings we are endowed with the power of intimacy which is expressed in our sexual relations with others that plays a major role in physical, mental and self actualization.” Fouad Ghaly M.D.
If you have any questions about my work or credentials please feel free to contact me on my contacts page.
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